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The Insidiousness of Gossip

The other day*, a certain friend “just mentioned” to Fred and me how another woman had said some pretty unkind things about us. (There’s nothing like “sharing” information about someone that makes everyone involved look bad, is there? This friend was attacking us in a sort of passive way; the other woman was allegedly speaking ill of us to others; …

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Tara — You told me I was nowhere near done reconciling.

  I recently received an encouraging note from a real-life friend from grad school. She references a telephone conversation we had years ago, but most of you will, I’m sure, recognize in her story that ALL I did was share with her the exact same love and counsel that a friend had shared with me years ago. Plus, ironically, even …

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“Don’t worry, Mom. The pastors will come.”

[As I am starting to gear up for my 2017 events, I thought I would encourage myself by re-reading this sweet reminder of pretty much the kindest thing church leaders have ever done for me as a speaker …] I just arrived in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania after a long day of travel from Montana. Some minor hiccups along the way (including …

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The Only Way to Overcome Evil and Fear is with Goodness and Love

I’m not sure from where I took these notes, but they are around ten years old, so I’m assuming they are a combination of sermons, people from my church, and anything and everything from CCEF: “When I am afraid, I will trust in you. In God whose word I praise, in God I trust; I will not be afraid. What can …

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“Unity is the irresistible witness of the church.” – Ken Sande of RelationalWisdom360

OK … I’m trying to give myself a little grace even though I’ve been quite a FAILURE at blogging “live” from this Peacemaking/Unity Conference … But I have learned a thing or two: 1. It’s hard to blog a conference when you’re SPEAKING during every single workshop slot; and 2. It’s really hard to blog when you’re ASLEEP. 🙂 !! That …

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Uncharitable Presumptions & Being Really, Really TIRED

Today would have been a very easy day to think some extremely uncharitable presumptions about me. I didn’t make it home from my event until midnight (which was around 1AM for my body because of the time zone differentials. Getting ready for church felt like I was lifting arms and legs made of 300 pounds of concrete. But I did …

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Christians Who Fail and Feel Terrible About It Don’t Need a Rebuke

Theology sounds so great on paper, but living it out is often so disturbingly unpleasant that I’m tempted to hypocrisy. Can’t I just BELIEVE it? Teach it? Do I actually have to LIVE it? (Yes. Yes. A thousand times yes.) Isn’t this exactly why we need the protection and accountability of our local church? The Christian life is not just …

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These “One Anothering” Commands are Not in the Bible (but they’re often in the church …)

Ray Ortland is spot-on in his post, One Anothers I Can’t Find in the New Testament: “Humble one another, scrutinize one another, pressure one another, embarrass one another, corner one another, interrupt one another, defeat one another, disapprove of one another, run one another’s lives, confess one another’s sins, intensify one another’s sufferings, point out one another’s failings . . …

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Change Happens in Community — in the Church

Oh! I think it’s time to re-read Lane & Tripp’s, How People Change, because I was so helped and encouraged (and challenged!) just by reading my NOTES from this great book. Let me share a few snippets from my notes with you: God’s call to growth and change: It is so easy to coast. God calls us to change. We …

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Loving Those Who Have Failed

“A love for those who are worthy and who come up to our standards is not the thing which Jesus refers to in John 13:34 as characterizing the Christian community and distinguishing it from other social groups. It is agape, the love which stoops to others as Christ stooped to us at the cross, which is to be the expression …

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