• Redeeming Church Conflicts

    Shepherd Leaders

    (Some wisdom from my coauthor, Cap’n Dave, taken from our rough draft of “Redeeming Church Conflict’s” Chapter 10—“Authoritative Leadership” …) “First Peter 5 verses 1-3 call elders to be shepherd leaders who care for the flock entrusted to them by God. Verse 3 tells elders to ‘be examples to the flock.’ The question naturally follows, examples of what? The short answer is to be examples of holiness. That means they are to reflect the character qualities set forth in 1 Timothy 3 and Titus 1. Furthermore, the list of the fruit of the Spirit set forth in Galatians 5:22-23 provides additional guidance of what practical holy living looks like. God’s…

  • Hope in Suffering

    Pleasant Places & A Beautiful Inheritance

    We are only into week two of our fall women’s study on the Psalms, but already I’ve been tremendously blessed. This week we are studying Psalm 16. Reading it (slowly) and then re-reading it multiple times was a true balm to my soul: “Preserve me, O God, for in you I take refuge. I say to the Lord, ‘You are my Lord; I have no good apart from you.’ As for the saints in the land, they are the excellent ones, in whom is all my delight. The sorrows of those who run after another god shall multiply; their drink offerings of blood I will not pour out or take…

  • Redeeming Church Conflicts

    How We Do Battle

    I remember when I first heard a woman in my church explain to her children how to do spiritual battle—that their “swords” were actually their memory verses. She reminded them of how Christian battled Apollyon in the children’s version of Pilgrim’s Progress they were reading. And years later, that image still sticks in my mind. (As I assume it does in theirs too.) This post by Kevin DeYoung was a great reminder of these truths: Precious Remedies Against Satan’s Devices Let me tempt you to read the entire entry by quoting just a few lines: “Satan is an accuser and a deceiver. In both cases his weapons are words, which is…

  • Redeeming Church Conflicts

    Well … It Looks Like We Really Need to Write this Thing Now!

    Dave Edling and I heard great news from Baker Books yesterday: their acquisitions and publications board has accepted our book proposal (“Redeeming Church Conflicts”) for publication (!). The details are still to be worked out, but it looks like we really need to hunker down and write this thing now. THANKS for your prayers and your encouragement too! Happy Thursday,  Tara B.  

  • Relationships & Peacemaking

    Ten Questions for My Friends at the Peacemaker Conference

    I’m praying for all of the Peacemaker Ministries staff members and attendees at this year’s Peacemaker Conference. I’m sure they’re all having a great time and learning a lot as they encourage and enjoy each other. I hope to see some FaceBook posts soon telling me all about it (hint hint 🙂 ). While I wait patiently for the insider’s scoop, I thought I’d give all conference attendees a little gift from Don Whitney via Pastor Anyabwile: Ten Questions for Benefitting from a Conference 1. What’s the single most important truth I have learned at this conference? 2. What’s the most important thing in my life that will be different…

  • Redeeming Church Conflicts

    Advice for Pastors and Seminary Students

    Kevin DeYoung hits it out of the park with this post: Advice for Theological Students and Young Pastors The only clarification I would add is to remove the word “young” because it is so applicable to ALL pastors. I can’t tell you how many examples Dave and I have in our (still-in-process) book on “Redeeming Church Conflicts” that involve even seasoned pastors and could have been avoided (or dealt with much earlier and without the help of a conciliation team) if the pastors had followed even just a few of these 20 pieces of advice. Here are my favorites from Pastor DeYoung’s list: “2. Beware of closing your heart to…

  • Hope in Suffering

    Comforting Others — First, Do No Harm

    Carolyn McCulley has a number of great reads currently up on her blog. This one was my favorite—for many reasons, but especially for the quote she gave from one of her pastors. He said it the Sunday morning after his new born son died after only four hours of life: Comforting Others “When you suffer, you often suffer doubly because of the dumb things people say.” How true this! She also quoted a different pastor who was counseling one of her friends whose husband had just committed suicide: “Prepare for incredibly insensitive questions–you will be required to grow in graciousness like you never thought you would.” Don’t those two pieces…

  • Redeeming Church Conflicts

    Reluctant Churchman

    Just in case you’re not in the mood to read another (long) entry re: my repenting of sin and unbelief (I’m seriously thinking about deleting my previous entry. I used to just journal privately, you know?) … Here’s a relatively quick, but meaty and substantive read that I think will bless you, especially if you never knew this about C.S. Lewis: C.S. Lewis, Reluctant Churchman    

  • Uncategorized

    Common – Yet Harmful and Unbiblical – Method for Evaluating Ministries

    Pastor Brian Croft continues to share solid gold nuggets of pastoral wisdom over at Practical Shepherding. Don’t miss today’s post: What is a common, yet unbiblical, way that a pastor evaluates his ministry? As always, he is specifically speaking to pastors, but I can’t help but think of how his insights apply to every Christian ministry. Yes, we laypeople will not be called to give an account for the souls of people because we do not hold ecclesiastical authority over them. But still, we have duties to our leaders and duties to our fellow church members. God calls us to pray for, bless, serve, encourage, bear with, protect, help, forgive,…

  • Perfectionism & Shame

    Learning to Have Some “Perfectly Useless” Time

    Hmmmmmmmm … I’m not sure I can honorably post this since I’m simultaneously writing a paper check to our dance instructor, while entering it in Quicken, filling an order, juggling some challenging issues related to our co-op day tomorrow (since I still have a fever—ergh), checking my seats on all 20+ of my upcoming flights, and listening to a discussion on writing well … all while feeling guilty for not doing more for Fred and the girls. Zowie. I’m convicted. This article is a good reminder and it has some great practical ideas too: Productivity and Quality Downtime Go Hand in Hand   Hope you are resting from your labors…