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“Don’t worry, Mom. The pastors will come.”

I just arrived in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania after a long day of travel from Montana. Some minor hiccups along the way (including a sincere PTSD reaction to sitting in the same row of a 757 that I was sitting in back in January when the overhead bin popped open—twice!—and heavy bags dropped on my head both times). But all things considered, it was an uneventful day. Most things went just fine. But one thing was remarkably, beautifully, so precious and good.

It actually started a little scarily for me …

When I picked up a voicemail during my airport sprint in Detroit, I heard a man’s voice introducing himself as the pastor from the church I will be serving this weekend for a women’s retreat. Uh-oh! That is not usually a good sign. My mind raced to thoughts about some big conflict in the women’s ministry or maybe the entire church. Or possibly some tragedy had happened in the church family and the women’s retreat was off?

Then the pastor said, “I’m here with our Session.” (For my non-Presbyterian blog readers, those are the ordained shepherd-overseer church leaders for us.) And then I REALLY thought something was up. Maybe they read my blog from yesterday and thought, “This chick is WAY too unstable! We’re pulling the plug on this retreat!” Or maybe I would be wheels-down into a huge church-related lawsuit or split that really needed a team of Christian mediators, not a women’s retreat speaker.

But no.
My catastrophizing thoughts could not have been more wrong.

Here is a paraphrase of what the pastor actually said:

“Tara? I’m pastor so-and-so and I’m here with the Session and we all just wanted to greet you upon your arrival in Pennsylvania. (And then they went around the room introducing themselves by name and giving me a warm, personal greeting.)

We all wanted you to know that we have just spent an extended time in prayer for you and for our women and the retreat this weekend. We are so grateful that you have come all this way to discuss biblical peacemaking with our women and we are excited for how God is going to be glorified through this event and how our women will be encouraged and refreshed and helped by the insights you will share with them.

We will be praying all weekend. Know that we are standing with you and we are so glad you are here.”

And then they prayed for me again. Right then. On the voicemail.

I almost could not believe it. In all of the years I’ve been doing women’s events, I have never received a call like that. So much love! So much care. I was bowled over and grateful, yet again, for leaders who lead from a place of service.  What a beautiful reflection of Jesus taking the basin and the towel.
 
It reminded me of something funny Ella said to me last night. She was watching me pack some extra protein and granola bars because this retreat is actually being hosted at a rugged campground (i.e., no wifi!) and since I don’t like to eat big meals right before I teach, and other food is not going to be available through the camp, I like to pack a few provisions so that I can serve well and not inconvenience anyone.

But Ella said:

“Hey Mom! You don’t have to pack those granola bars. Don’t worry! The pastors will come.

Now that was a stumper for me. “The pastors will come?” What is she talking about in her sweet, albeit slightly obscure, four year-old way? Sophie had to interpret for me:

“Mom? Remember how last night you were telling us stories of various events you have served at over the years and how that one, very small women’s retreat in Texas was out in a beautiful, rugged campground and on the Saturday night of the retreat, the church leaders came out to the campground, set the tables, prepared (and cleaned up) all of the dishes, and grilled you all the most delicious steaks you had ever eaten. Yum-yum-nummy-num-num! And you said they wouldn’t let any of the women lift a finger to help clean up because they just wanted to take care of everything and facilitate a relaxed, refreshing time of fellowship, study, and prayer for the women. That’s what Ella is referring to.”

I love it!

The faithful shepherd who lays down his life for his sheep.
(And who does dishes and leaves encouraging, prayer-filled voicemails from the entire Session too.)

Thank You, Lord, for pastors who watch out over their flocks. Now I’m even MORE excited to be here serving in the beautiful state of Pennsylvania. May God be praised!

Gratefully,
Tara B.

[A re-post of a 2014 article.] 

6 Comments

  • Chrissy D.

    I’m sitting here weeping as I read this post. I frequently sigh over your posts about pastoral leadership, since I have not experienced it often (really, not every that I can think of), but this one really hit close. I long for strong church leadership, where the women are not expected to run everything nor are they taken for granted.

  • Nancy Guthrie

    What a beautiful way to start a weekend of ministry. I know you will be an incredible blessing to all.

  • Karen Taylor

    Encouraged. GO!! The Loss of Ann Kiemel this week makes me more and more aware of ladies who live their life for HIM. So many aren’t on the travel schedule like you, but they serve just the same. Need YOU so we are equipped to serve HIM in our own ordained roles. <3

  • martha brady

    so excited you wil be in harrisburg, PA. my brother and his wife life there:) not sure they are in the church you are ministering in, but probably a sister church. blessings this w/e. great stories of the grace of GOD ministered to you from leaders in some churches.

    isn’t is great that your daughters grow up to hear these wonderful stories? worth more than gold!

  • tara

    Thanks thanks thanks, dear ones! I’m always so encouraged when I hear from you.

    Thanks for taking the time to drop me a note!

    Sending my love,
    Tara B.