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#MeToo Recent Survivors of Assault? It Gets Better.

Even on a normal day, I am not very active on social media, so “viral” things usually pass right by me, unnoticed. On Mondays, however? I am even LESS likely to notice something “out there” in the land of memes and hashtags, etc. because my Mondays are spent with a classroom full of teenagers discussing the topics that I assume you all …

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PTSD & Anxiety – Annoying, Painful, Distressing, Devouring.

If you ever want to see who your true friends are, struggle through trauma therapy after being assaulted. Man. Real friends can BRING IT. Love. Anger. A text that actually makes you laugh out loud moments after you were just wondering if you’d ever laugh again. Prayer. Presence. Sure, an occasional link to a helpful article or sermon. Cards, books, …

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Vandalizing Shalom

From one of my favorite books … C. Plantinga’s, Not The Way It’s Supposed to Be–A Breviary of Sin: “None of our lives is an accident. We have been called into existence, expected, awaited, equipped, and assigned. We have been called to undertake the stewardship of a good creation, to create sturdy and buoyant families that pulse with the glad give-and-take …

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Peeling Back the Layers of our Complex Pain: Our past is important, but not determinative

Angry people are sometimes sinfully angry; and sometimes angry people are fearful people who have no idea how frightened (and frightening) they are. Avoidance of duties may be sinful laziness and sloth, but sometimes it can be genuine exhaustion that comes from our trying (consciously or unconsciously) to stomp down and avoid deep grief and pain. Some of us are sinfully proud and foolish …

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Trauma, Anxiety, and Hope

If we don’t interact in real life or on Facebook, you may be slightly concerned about me, since I am currently not blogging on a regular basis. Please don’t worry about me! 🙂 I am doing very well, but just busy writing for publication, preparing for my busy fall speaking season, and living real life. If you are in search of a …

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Turning and Facing the Specifics of My Assault. (A brief primer on trauma recovery and anniversary dates …)

Last Spring, when my trauma counselor first gave me a homework assignment that included me figuring out the exact date of my sexual assault last fall, I instinctively recoiled and said, “No way!” I was in counseling to get over this terrible thing that happened to me. I didn’t want to focus on it. But, of course, my very wise and experienced counselor …

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My Detective in Adult Violent Crimes – The Finest Law Enforcement Official My Attorney Has Ever Met

I just had the truly amazing privilege of meeting (and thanking) in-person the investigating detective on my sexual assault case. (The adult violent crime prosecutor’s office sent me to him back when I first reported the assault .) Even my attorney said that Detective Scott Morrison is the finest, most professional law enforcement official with whom he has ever worked. …

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Update on my Sexual Assault

Many, many thanks to all of you who have been so kind to pray for me, reach out with notes and gifts, and just generally remember me as I have spent the past year walking through all of the criminal, civil, and personal (body/soul) issues associated with the sexual assault I experienced returning from one of my women’s events last fall. The …

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The Civil Lawsuit Related to my Sexual Assault has SETTLED!

Before I turn off my laptop for the day, I wanted to let you know that the civil lawsuit related to my sexual assault has SETTLED (!!). Of course the lawyers are still going back and forth with exact wording in the release documents, but our family simply could not be more grateful to God for his provision of wise …

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On Being Assaulted

If you have ever read my “Child Protection First / Abuse in the Church” posts, then you know that I have strong convictions about our duties to keep our children as safe as possible. Some of this is based on the sad reality of my childhood (“I Do Not Have One Childhood Memory Apart from P*rnography”). Some of this is based on the …

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