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How Fred Responded When I Asked Him Last Week if I Had Ruined His Life

Last week was a particularly hard week for Fred and me. At one point, seeing the marks of searing pain on Fred’s face (again), I was overcome by the sense that all of his worst suffering in life was because of me. (Maybe not entirely because of me, since, sure, I know my theology and I know we have three real enemies: Satan, the world, our flesh. …

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I love this! “I Will Wait”

Two of my favorite people, Carolyn McCulley and Pastor Anyabwile, pointed me to this video years ago and it is still a favorite. I do SO urge you to watch it all the way to the end. It may not be your culture. Poetry reading may not be something you take part in often. Listen anyway. This is excellent.

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(Very!) Wise Counsel in Just Four Words

In the dark, quiet hours of the early morning, my mind was already whirling away as I considered everything on my plate for the day. I was so happy when Fred was finally awake and we could talk and pray together. He began to move into his day and I was still a little paralyzed by the size of the …

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An Abuse Survivor Learns to Show Mercy to Her Abuser

A friend emailed me today asking for trustworthy resources on how an abuse survivor can persevere in wise, godly, appropriate responses to her abuser. This friend was particularly interested in persevering in love and mercy toward her abuser because he is repentant and also because all of the other civic authority and ecclesiastical authority issues associated with his abuse are also being wisely …

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The Benefits of Refusing to Forgive

Last night, I was so blessed to stumble across this old blog from Molly Friesen’s time at Peacemaker Ministries: The Dark “Benefits” of Unforgiveness In it, she quotes a section from Paul Tripp’s excellent book, “What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage.” I think I might pick that book up off of my bookshelf and give it another read …

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Possibly the best thing I’ve ever read on marriage …

This is long, but very worth the read. It may be the best thing I’ve ever read on marriage: The Wedding Vows: 20 Years Later

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Love and Lust

This is definitely one of the best sermons I have ever heard on love and lust—but it’s application goes far beyond merely sexual relationships. List and enjoy! “Love and Lust” by Timothy Keller You can also read an excellent article on this topic by Tim Keller here.

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The Sexy Wife I Can’t Be (& Confessions of a 25 Year-Old Virgin)

Cap’n Dave just sent me an email to tell me that our RedeemingChurchConflicts blog made the top ten list for The Aquila Report last week. How fun! To quote Dave, “Some pastors must be concerned about exactly what is their greatest spiritual danger.” I’m so glad Dave’s posts are there to help out. I was also intrigued by a number of …

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Marring the Landscape with the Grand-Scale Deceit of a Marital Affair

I very much appreciated Challies‘ link to this sobering, but extremely well-written, honest article on the allure and devastation of marital unfaithfulness: A Roomful of Yearning and Regret (And from the New York Times, too! I was quite surprised.) The author speaks from her own experience of having cheated on her husband and having been cheated on by her husband. She has many beautifully …

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Miserable Christian Marriages (And The Church)

Longtime readers of this blog know that I share relatively openly about real-life struggles in my marriage, parenting … really in just life itself. But only people who have been reading for 8+ years know that back in 2005, Fred and I faced a particularly dark time in our friendship and marriage. It was terrible. We both felt quite hopeless …

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