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How DARE the pastor say that I shouldn’t take communion! Just because I’m in this big fight with someone in my church? How dare he! (Or. Dare he not?)

I always enjoy Dave’s posts over at our Redeeming Church Conflicts.com site. But this post was particularly challenging and edifying for me: Fencing Over Fights I hope you will click through and read the entire post, but for a quick summary, let me just say that Dave reminds us all of the seriousness of coming to the Lord’s Table in an …

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“Men are afraid of women …”

Reading my denomination’s magazine (By Faith), I was struck to the heart and literally brought to tears. And prayer. The last article was on the relationships between ordained men in the church and women in the church. There were many wonderful, gospel-saturated aspects to those important relationships. But two quotes broke my heart (especially, I am sure, because I have …

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Tara — You told me I was nowhere near done reconciling.

  I recently received an encouraging note from a real-life friend from grad school. She references a telephone conversation we had years ago, but most of you will, I’m sure, recognize in her story that ALL I did was share with her the exact same love and counsel that a friend had shared with me years ago. Plus, ironically, even …

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Guarding Your Marriage by NOT Being Too Close to Your Girlfriends (??)

Fred and I had a weepingly hard conversation last Sunday. (Weeping for me, not him. Fred’s not really a crier although he does sometimes leak “sad water from his eyes” to use Ella’s term.) There were many aspects to our conversation and I may be sharing some of them with you in future posts, as appropriate. But today I wanted …

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Not Excusing — But Grieving and Forgiving

Recently, I was hurt deeply by a family member who used to be close to me. It would not be appropriate to go into the details in this public forum, but suffice it to say, my heart was gravely wounded. The hurt was so deep, in fact, that at first I did not even understand it myself. Like a bad …

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Loving Confrontation Will Not Ultimately Harm Us (Even if It Hurts)

Talking with someone about an apparent sin or temptation has to be one of the most difficult things to do in all of life. Yesterday, my five year-old brought some excellent questions about why Galatians 6:1 “rescue” and Matthew 7 “helping someone with the speck in their eye” are not the same thing as being the “proud, super-holy, Pharisee people” (in Luke …

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What about repeating (habitual?) patterns of sin and struggle? How do the Seven A’s of Confession and Four Promises of Forgiveness apply?

I recently had to make a “Seven A’s Confession” to a dear friend. Like all real confessions, it was embarrassing. I was frustrated with myself for blowing it. Again. I felt bad about hurting someone I care about. Talking it out for real took time and effort and emotion, three things that neither of us really had extra margin in this …

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Loving Well Even if You Haven’t Been

Every Christmas, Fred surprises me with at least one book. Usually it’s theology, philosophy, or history … but always, it’s one of my favorite parts of Christmas. This year, in addition to indulging in his gift of a new book, I am also going to re-read a title from five years ago: Loving Well Even if You Haven’t Been (by William P. …

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“Unity is the irresistible witness of the church.” – Ken Sande of RelationalWisdom360

OK … I’m trying to give myself a little grace even though I’ve been quite a FAILURE at blogging “live” from this Peacemaking/Unity Conference … But I have learned a thing or two: 1. It’s hard to blog a conference when you’re SPEAKING during every single workshop slot; and 2. It’s really hard to blog when you’re ASLEEP. 🙂 !! That …

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If I Had Absolute Power, Would I Take Revenge? (In secret, of course …)

I recently heard an excellent sermon that I highly commend to you: Joseph in Egypt, Not of Egypt Of course, I’ve read Genesis 41 countless times. I’ve heard a great number of sermons and teachings about Joseph. And I’m a huge Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dream fan. (What a blast! What a fun musical! Terrible biblical exegesis, but wonderful tunes. And …

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