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Monthly Archive for: ‘June, 2005’

I’m Even Worse Than You Think

Ever since “the book” (Peacemaking Women) came out this month, I have been opening my email Inboxes and viewing my blog and related websites with much trepidation. Knowing how awful I truly was in relating with people (especially in my twenties!), I just cringe thinking of the many people who could write reviews and post “Tara evaluations” to the world …

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When to be silent? When to counsel?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how I interact with friends and acquaintances. Specifically, when might it be the most God-honoring and loving thing to do to remain silent (supportive, encouraging, loving–but “non-confrontational”), and when it is that I might be called to gently speak Truth (counsel the Word). Let me give you an example … I’m having lunch …

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The Heaviness of Sin & The Hope of Forgiveness

Last night I had to have a serious talk with my husband, Fred. I had known for a long time that I needed to confess some things to him–but I was dreading it and didn’t want to face up to the blackness of my wicked heart. So I avoided the conversation and grew more burdened and depressed with each passing …

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Overwhelmed? Try organizing. Or prayer.

Last week I completely lost it. Internally at least — I was just freaking out. (Funny — I’m sort of feeling that way this morning too.) Anyway, things were swirling & swirling, it seemed like no matter how hard I tried, I just couldn’t get on top of anything. I knew how I should have been (calm, happy, joyful, hopeful, …

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Different Responses to Suffering

When I have the privilege of teaching on biblical peacemaking, I always have the concurrent privilege of visiting and praying with people who are suffering. Conflict & suffering go hand in hand — and I spend my breaks, meal times, and late nights seeking the Lord with hurting Believers. Last night I was struck again by how varied our responses …

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Hold on Book!

This week, my best friend Samara totally cracked me up with a story about her two-year old daughter, Scout. It seems that Scout has taken to saying, “Too fast! Too fast!” whenever they are driving in the car. Now, my friend is a careful driver and I seriously doubt that she is driving too fast. (In addition to Scout, she …

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Miserable Christian Marriages

Lately, my pastor and I have been mediating a number of conflicted marriages. It is heartbreaking too work with these couples. They love the Lord, love their children … and cannot stand one another. Instead of demonstrating to the world the relationship of Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5), their marital relationship is filled with bitterness, rage, and mutual disgust. …

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The Myth of Chronic Uniqueness

After listening to me end a retreat session with something I say at almost every event, a professional counselor came up to me and taught me a new term: chronic uniqueness. You see, when I teach on how the Gospel of Jesus Christ applies to broken relationships, struggles with perfectionism and control, living for people’s approval, God’s bitter providence, idolatry …

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Grace Cannot Coexist with Bitterness

Our family loves, prays for, and supports a Youth for Christ missionary by the name of Ajith Fernando. To us, Ajith and his family members are heroes of the faith. Their sacrifice and service would be impossible to measure outside of eternity. I love his writings and it is a joy to serve him even in some small way. Today, …

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