Last night I had a disturbing dream about a certain person with whom I have a relatively strained relationship. I would like to have a better relationship with her, but honestly, I don’t. In the dream, I was yelling at her and speaking rudely to her in a harsh, critical, and judgmental manner. And then she died. Right then. Right after I was treating her so unlovingly. I remember in the dream trying to defend myself to the people around me: “She came around and forgave me right before she died!” I self-protectively explained. (Yeah, right. I just didn’t want people to think less of me–even in my dreams, my…

My husband Fred and I don’t have many fights. We just have the same fights over and over and over again. “Oh, yeah, here comes fight number 37, whipping around the bend … we know this script by heart …” – He tries to say something important but doesn’t quite get the words right. – I’m ‘the verbal one’ and words are important to me. His words, meant to bless, hurt me. – He tries to clarify and “fix things.” – This comes across as backpedaling and feels insincere to me. (I.e., “You must have really meant what you said the first time because otherwise why would you have said…